How To Figure Out What The Hell You Want To Do With Your Life

You only ever have two choices in life: fear or love. While this is overly simplified, there’s truth in it no matter what decision you’re facing. Everyday we make thousands of decisions. Little ones, big ones. Some that seem trivial and unimportant. Like what color underwear you’ll wear today, or where you buy your coffee. Then there’s bigger decisions that take up more of your mental faculties: will you get a membership to the gym or yoga studio? Should you go on a date with your colleague? Maybe you weigh the options with a pros and cons list. Do you use your left brain to analyze the situation and decipher the option that is the least risky? Do you take the safest route? The most ‘logical’ option?

You're either choosing from your highest truth (where you don't limit yourself based on a feared outcome) or you’re choosing from fear. Most people live their lives trying to avoid danger, stuck in lower survival emotions and reactionary tendencies that were programmed in the mind at a very young age.

Our minds are programmed to keep us safe which often means keeping our environment familiar and predictable so that we’ll have fewer surprises and feel more in control of our lives. In effort to belong, we avoid risk and trying new things as to avoid being wrong or unaccepted by our communities. This is a subconscious process designed to protect us and you may not even realize it’s happening until you look at your habits and tendency to choose the same thing over and over again, even when you know it’s not good for you. Whether it’s relationships, food or even reading choices, we have patterns that are familiar to us and we often stick to them even when we ‘know better’. This makes your choose things that are familiar and ‘acceptable’ rather than what you know if your Highest Truth. These mini self-betrayals, unnoticed at first, are the reasons you don’t trust yourself. No wonder you don’t know what to do with your life. You wouldn’t believe yourself if you did.

Most people don’t know what they want, or at least they think they don’t know. I believe everyone knows what they want and can access this truth anytime by quieting the mind and listening to the heart. It takes some repetition and lucky for you, you have hundreds of opportunities every day to practice.

When you quiet the judgmental thinking thoughts, you can hear little curiosities and nudges towards people, situations and events that feel good. You’ll might get ideas that don’t seem logical or productive. You’ll likely get sudden inspirations to do new things you haven’t done before, but always dreamed of doing. When you don’t listen to your heart you experience resistance, frustration and procrastination. Although the voice of your heart, or Higher Self, is usually quiet and subtle, sometimes she will rage loud with all her might so that you can’t avoid your truth. This can happen through loss, anger, heartache and car accidents. The good news is you train yourself to listen to the subtle signals and follow the path to an extraordinary life.