What does success mean to you?
Most people want to create success so that they can have security, stability, and feel safe.
we're drawn to create comfortable lives and we also want to feel like what we're doing is meaningful. We want to feel needed by our tribe and our communities. We want to belong. We want to contribute to and support our families. This is what most people would define as success.
Ironically, it's our very obsession with trying to make things happen on the outside that often keeps us from actually realizing these goals, no matter how noble they may be.
Our culture is obsessed with creating ‘success’ yet many reach for lofty goals unaware of their true underlying motives.
It's common for those who crave 'success' do so out of necessity to fill the gaps in their emotional bodies that were left open from unformed memories in their childhoods. You don’t need to have grown up in a broken family to have self-sabotaging beliefs. Often times it’s our parents beliefs about money, success, happiness, and their own feelings of safety and security that we take on as our own. There’s a lot of influencing factors responsible for the belief systems that cause you to look for the answers outside of yourself.
It’s great to see conscious leaders using this powerful motivation which fuels them to find solutions to heal the earth and it’s inhabitants, and fast. We have a ton of great knowledge, tools and resources and incredible technologies and things are changing more rapidly than ever recorded in history.
So what’s stopping any of us from having immense super abundance and success in all areas of our lives?
The answer for most, lays in the heart.
Within each of us is a child like love that doesn’t think in plans and numbers. This pure, innocent and loving energy wishes to play, sing and dance. Above all else it needs connection.
In our mission to succeed and create something of ourselves we’ve pushed aside our innate need to connect deeply, so as to not get hurt, and hinder our efforts of achieving success. As a woman that has spent her entire life learning how to be strong and independent so that I wouldn’t need anybody, I know exactly what I’m talking about. I felt alone and I needed to keep myself safe which meant:
a) work hard,
b) control my environment, and
c) eliminate debilitating emotions
This naturally led me to work from home, distance myself from most people and rarely leave the house. I didn’t want to open up to relationships with anyone because I didn’t want to get my heart broken. I didn’t want to get hurt, rejected or abandoned. If I didn't let anyone in, they couldn't hurt me. You can't lose what you don't have.
While these qualities can be found in anyone, it’s especially evident to me in the rising of the divine feminine. As men and women emerge from lifetimes of suppression we have wounds to heal and hearts to feel.
Which means being vulnerable.